Label. This really pissed me off when I read it last week and I’ve been holding off to try and put it into words. Best to just quote The Girl herself:
But it’s easy – and somewhat expected – to chastise a woman, isn’t it? Put the slut in her place if she talks about fucking. So whilst the overall article may have been sympathetic, the subtext of it was that something is wrong with me because I enjoy sex; or because I objectify men; or because I make noise about how the media/society/porn still has a predominantly male gaze.